There are days where Kae seems like the person I know – have know all her life…other days….I scratch my head wondering who is this person? Lately it seems she has a handle on her alcohol use…I don’t live with her so I guess I’ll never know for sure but she seems lucid and sober. What baffles me is the choices she makes and her lack of self motivation.
It’s almost impossible for me to believe that she is actively searching for a job. Is she too picky? Her Dad and I can’t imagine that she won’t get a job that brings in some money and would still allow her to search for that perfect, big dollar dream job. Ok – one day a week she has a lovely job that could turn into more…meantime there are 6 other days in the week and that leaves plenty of opportunity for another part time job. Sadly, I don’t understand.
My daughter has always been self motivated but lately she doesn’t seem to have it in her. I know with a sentencing date for W approaching – like less than a week away – that is weighing on her mind. A divorce that has just begun and still only a very, very part time job…She has waaaaaay too much time to think about everything. Maybe she simply can’t find the band-width to get up off her butt and take care of filling out forms for attorneys, picking up her house, folding laundry, finding a job…..
I love her the same as always and am hopeful that the day will come when she is 100% back to being the girl we raised her to be…..maybe she’ll never be “THAT” person again though. Possibly, having an abusive husband took so much of her that she’ll be different. Of course, I’d never want her to be in that situation again and so there would need to be changes.
What I really think is that I have no idea exactly how she is coping with all that she is going through. What an emotional rollercoaster she is on. I try to tell myself that she’s doing the best she can under the circumstances…but I’m not always successful in convincing myself of that. Part of me wants to go visit for a few days…part of me doesn’t…
Today I’m scratching my head – tomorrow is a new day!