In my last post abut Kae’s self-centeredness I mentioned how her Dad said one night, “she’s going to die”. Do you know how shocking it was to hear him say that? His voice cracked at the words. We are afraid. We love our daughter deeply. We feel helpless – we are helpless. We cannot “fix” her, control her or punish her for her bad choices. She’s not 4 anymore. Boy was she something when she was 4 – smart, inquisitive, funny, cute and talented.
What happened? A parent – me – my husband – cannot imagine how she ended up on this awful journey. Why? Why did this happen – why can’t she get a grip on her life? SO many questions……..
I used to imagine her life – happy, vibrant, successful – for a time it was. What the hell happened? I mean I know the marriage sucked, she was laid-off from a great job….but why did she choose such a self-destructive manner in which to tackle these circumstances?
Now when I think about her future I don’t know what to visualize. Will she recover or be homeless, dead, down and out? I try to picture her coming out of this and going back to the beautiful, smart and talented young woman – the one that is still residing in her – somewhere….I desperately want to love that girl again.
I feel empty and sad and fearful, but I love her so very much – she will always be my daughter.